However, those flushes of feeling wonderful when we first meet ‘the one’ can cause us to throw logic out of the window. It’s perfectly natural, the emotional part of the mind follows instinct rather than logic, affecting how we act and feel. That’s why, when we are in the early throws of a relationship, we can become a little detached from reality and see the person through rose-tinted glasses. You’re probably familiar with the expression ‘love is blind’!
Once we become invested in a relationship and it naturally progresses, life events will happen, such as changing jobs, moving home, even having or adopting children etc. It is easy for daily life to take its toll and test even the most solid of relationships.
All relationships take effort, understanding and patience to grow and flourish. All relationships can become strained from time to time. I’ve put a few pointers together for you this month, to explain how to have a mentally healthy relationship.
Let’s face it, we can’t expect our lives or our relationships to run smoothly all the time. However, if you have read the points above and feel that your relationship is out of balance, then maybe it is time to have a good heart-to-heart conversation. In today’s fast-moving world, it can be so easy to let our busy lives take over everything, meaning that we can easily begin to neglect the things that are important to us.
Finally, one thing many people find hard to do when things have not gone right in a relationship, is to practice forgiveness. I’m not talking about forgiving your partner, I am talking about forgiving yourself. We all make mistakes in life, it happens. If we’re smart, we learn from our mistakes. In order to do that, we also need to be able to forgive ourselves when we haven’t got it quite right, so go easy on yourself if you’ve messed up.
That’s it for this month. If you would like me to cover any other subjects to do with mental health and well-being please get in touch, I’d love to hear from you.
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